My oldest daughter is, or has always been, a "mini-me." We even think alike. It is scary; I keep seeing more and more of myself in her. I know, I know, it should be a parents dream come true, but not for me. I have too many hang-ups from past hurts and, even though, my daughter has not suffered those same hurts, in a way, she has. How those hurts have affected me, affects her as well. It effects how I parent her. Anyways, I am getting off track...
I have always thought of my daughter and me as two of a kind. However, there are some differences that I don't understand. Some of this could be because we have two different temperaments. In my last post, I talked about my temperament, a Supine. Now, let's delve into hers.
My Daughter's Temperament: Sanguine
Of all the temperament types, the Sanguine is easily the most outgoing, easy to get to know, and lovable. They will value friendship, love, and close interaction much more than physical possessions. They live to establish life long relationships.
Of the five personalities, the Sanguine is the most positive. With consistent instruction and careful discipline, this individual will be a shining star to brighten the hearts of others. A Sanguine is generally optimistic, cheerful, even-tempered, confident, rational and practical, popular, and fun-loving. (I can understand this, being a sunny person as well, but I have to say, at the beginning of the tweens, I am not seeing as much sunshine in my daughter as I used to.)
A Sanguine is endearing, sunny and gets along with even the most difficult people. (When my daughter was younger, it did not matter how much trouble she got into at school, all I kept hearing was that she was so endearing.)
The Sanguine is fairly extroverted. They tend to enjoy gatherings, making new friends and tend to be quite loud. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for them. Sanguines can also be very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly when it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. For some people, these are the ones you want to be friends with and usually they become life long friends.
A Sanguine needs an active, caring relationship to be truly happy. A relationship where words, acts of love, and caring emotion are a daily occurrence.
The passions of the Sanguine are quickly excited, but they do not last. And although the Sanguine can explode with anger, this individual bears no grudge or resentment. Dire events may occur around the Sanguine, but after a short period of "being down," her natural enthusiasm and good-temper bounce back. Sanguines are naturally charitable, sincere, and love greatly.
The sanguine person finds a childish joy and satisfaction in her outward appearance, in her clothes and work. She feels happy when praised and is very susceptible to flattery. She is keenly aware of and attracted to beauty in clothes, furnishings, the arts, etc. She has an eye for fine detail.
The Sanguine is not deep; she does not embrace the whole, but is satisfied with the superficial. Before she has mastered one subject, her interest relaxes because new impressions have already captured her attention. But, it is hard to convince a Sanguine that she is superficial.
This lack of deep passions is of great advantage in a Sanguine's spiritual life. She is usually spared great interior trials and can serve God with joy and ease, as long as she is surrounded by those of the same faith. The Sanguine has a temperament in which she will be strongly influenced by who is around her.
The Sanguine is always changing moods; she can quickly pass from tears to laughter and back again. Sanguines are also fickle in their views; if a new point of view is presented she may readily upset her plans.
A Sanguine child must be consistently taught to practice self-denial, kept under strict supervision and guidance; he must be carefully guarded against bad company since she can be seduced so easily. But you must leave her to her cheerfulness and let her have her fun, only guard her against overdoing it.
Some of this is not exactly what I wanted to hear about my daughter. She is born with a natural tendency to be “flighty,” to be distractible, and easily led. But, at the same time, she is a loving creature and a happy one.
Continued from: Part 2
Next: Part 4
My Daughter's Temperament: SanguineOf all the temperament types, the Sanguine is easily the most outgoing, easy to get to know, and lovable. They will value friendship, love, and close interaction much more than physical possessions. They live to establish life long relationships.
Of the five personalities, the Sanguine is the most positive. With consistent instruction and careful discipline, this individual will be a shining star to brighten the hearts of others. A Sanguine is generally optimistic, cheerful, even-tempered, confident, rational and practical, popular, and fun-loving. (I can understand this, being a sunny person as well, but I have to say, at the beginning of the tweens, I am not seeing as much sunshine in my daughter as I used to.)
A Sanguine is endearing, sunny and gets along with even the most difficult people. (When my daughter was younger, it did not matter how much trouble she got into at school, all I kept hearing was that she was so endearing.)
The Sanguine is fairly extroverted. They tend to enjoy gatherings, making new friends and tend to be quite loud. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for them. Sanguines can also be very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly when it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. For some people, these are the ones you want to be friends with and usually they become life long friends.
A Sanguine needs an active, caring relationship to be truly happy. A relationship where words, acts of love, and caring emotion are a daily occurrence.
The passions of the Sanguine are quickly excited, but they do not last. And although the Sanguine can explode with anger, this individual bears no grudge or resentment. Dire events may occur around the Sanguine, but after a short period of "being down," her natural enthusiasm and good-temper bounce back. Sanguines are naturally charitable, sincere, and love greatly.
The sanguine person finds a childish joy and satisfaction in her outward appearance, in her clothes and work. She feels happy when praised and is very susceptible to flattery. She is keenly aware of and attracted to beauty in clothes, furnishings, the arts, etc. She has an eye for fine detail.
The Sanguine is not deep; she does not embrace the whole, but is satisfied with the superficial. Before she has mastered one subject, her interest relaxes because new impressions have already captured her attention. But, it is hard to convince a Sanguine that she is superficial.
This lack of deep passions is of great advantage in a Sanguine's spiritual life. She is usually spared great interior trials and can serve God with joy and ease, as long as she is surrounded by those of the same faith. The Sanguine has a temperament in which she will be strongly influenced by who is around her.
The Sanguine is always changing moods; she can quickly pass from tears to laughter and back again. Sanguines are also fickle in their views; if a new point of view is presented she may readily upset her plans.
A Sanguine child must be consistently taught to practice self-denial, kept under strict supervision and guidance; he must be carefully guarded against bad company since she can be seduced so easily. But you must leave her to her cheerfulness and let her have her fun, only guard her against overdoing it.
Some of this is not exactly what I wanted to hear about my daughter. She is born with a natural tendency to be “flighty,” to be distractible, and easily led. But, at the same time, she is a loving creature and a happy one.
Continued from: Part 2
Next: Part 4
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